I think this question gets thought about quite a lot when you’re a parent of two or more children. Do we treat them the same? I suppose we all like to think that we treat them equally and there’s no favouritism but that would be a lie.
If you asked me right now which of my babies I liked more I would say don’t be so stupid! I love them both the same! But sometimes – maybe Amelia will be screaming for an hour non stop, or Max will be up 15 times on the night whilst Amelia sleeps right through and you just can’t help but prefer one over the other at that time – meaning you treat one better and differently to the other.
Sometimes they both just scream for no reason and I’m not overly keen or either of them then I feel like a good parent again for liking, or slightly disliking, them just the same again.
At the end of the day our children are totally different people just like we are. No two people are the same and it’s right for children too. They’re all different and some days we will get on with one more than the other. We will clash with them just like we do others and maybe one of our children will be a ‘mini-me’ and we will get on with that one the most because there the most like you.
They all have their own very different personalities and different needs and require different types/styles of attention from each parent.
So I think the answer to this question – unless your children are clones – is yes. We do treat our children differently.
And that’s not necessarily a bad thing.