Self confidence is a tricky one. In some ways I have plenty and in others it’s pretty non existent. A lot of my anxiety and fears come from self confidence and it used to hold me back completely.
Yes USED TO! And do you want to know how I overcame my self confidence?
Well it’s simple!
I just got on with it!
For a long time now I’ve wanted to get into the gym more and do some classes, however there were two things holding me back. 1 – I had no car so without somebody as willing as me (which no one really was) it was difficult to actually go to the gym. And 2 – my self confidence. However now I have my lovely little car Ron, the first one isn’t an issue anymore.
I was asking people I knew for weeks if anybody wanted to go to the gym with me or do a spin class but with conflicting schedules and children involved it just didn’t ever seem to happen. I guessed the only way I would actually ever do it is if I went by myself – but I had one major fear and that was what other people would think of me and that inside they would all be laughing.
Pretty stupid when I think about it now, it’s not as if we’re in a bitchy school playground but I guess sometimes your brain just goes into overdrive!
After giving birth to two children in two years and gaining almost 4 stone with Max, my body image and self confidence was at rock bottom and honestly I was just really embarrassed about what people would think of me.
Last week I told Jack there was a class on and I really wanted to go but no one would go with me, I very almost didn’t actually go but after a little pep talk I decided to brave it – or I would never do it!
So I did it! And it really wasn’t that bad at all! The instructor Sam was genuinely lovely so I felt really welcome. She wasn’t there straight away so after standing at the front looking like a lemon for a few minutes I figured I would copy the other women and just slowly pedal, it was only a bike after all?! Wow I was wrong! If you’ve ever been to a spin class you’ll know exactly what I mean. The bikes weren’t normal bikes, they were strange shapes with small seats that were way too high and handles that were way too low, and they had funny pedals you had to strap your feet in?!
Bad move really, after standing there trying to mentally figure it out, and dropping everything, multiple times, I was even braver and asked the lady beside me how the heck it works! This was a really big step for me because she had an amazing body and looked like she really knew her stuff and I was very intimidated. But I figured it’s a lot better than falling off or breaking my leg half way through right?
End result? Spin is HARD! But I can’t wait to go again! And do even more classes now I’m feeling more confident.
So the moral of the story is if you’re feeling worried or lacking in self confidence, just get on with it! And you may even love it. (I definitely did not love the sore bum though – maybe next time I’ll ask if they have bigger seats for the people born with a larger booty! Haha)
Does your self confidence hold you back? How did you overcome it?